Frequently asked questions from Au pairs
Find the answers to the main questions that our au pairs.
The important points before you get started
Going au pair is a project that is built over time! You probably have a lot of questions about how the program works (age/ conditions/ cost…). Here we answer your main questions before you start. If you don’t find the answer to one of your questions, don’t hesitate to contact us.
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What are the conditions for becoming an au pair in France?
To be an au pair in France, you must :
- Be aged between 18 and 28
Be single and childless
Be eligible for a ‘Jeune Au Pair’ visa (check with the French embassy or consulate in your home country)
Have at least two significant experiences with children (outside the family)
How long does an au pair stay in France last?
- Minimum: 2 months (during the summer)
- Maximum: 24 months (after visa renewal)
- Most common duration: between 6 and 12 months The initial visa is valid for one year, with the possibility of an extension for a further year.
What level of French is required to be an au pair in France?
There are no strict French language requirements. However, having a basic knowledge of French will make it easier for you to integrate and communicate with your host family and the children.
Is a driving licence compulsory?
No, it’s not compulsory. Many families live in areas well served by public transport. Nevertheless, having a licence can broaden your investment options.
How much pocket money does an au pair in France receive?
- Legal minimum: €70 per week for European Au Pairs, €80 for non-Europeans
- With BUTRFLY: minimum of 90€ per week
- Some families can offer up to €100 per week
What costs do I have to pay as an au pair?
You will have to pay :
- The visa fee (approximately €125)
- Your plane or train ticket
- BUTRFLY agency fees
- Your French lessons (unless the family offers to pay for them)
- Your personal expenses
What does the host family pay for?
The host family must provide
- Accommodation and food
- Transport for work and French lessons
- Health insurance for the duration of the stay
- A French SIM card
- URSSAF declaration and contributions (approximately €209 per month)
How far in advance do I need to start the formalities?
We recommend that you start your search between 3 and 6 months before your desired departure date. The placement process generally takes around 1.5 months, to which must be added the time required for visa procedures.
What are the advantages of working through an agency like BUTRFLY?
- Security and support throughout the process
- Help with administrative formalities (visa, finding a language school, etc.)
- Checking host families and working conditions
- Support during your stay
- Expertise in the field of au pair placements
What is a typical day like for an au pair in France?
As an au pair, you will work between 25 and 35 hours per week. Your main tasks will be :
- Looking after the children (waking them up, getting them ready for school, accompanying them, etc.)
- Help with homework
- Help with household chores related to the children
- Sharing family time, especially meals
Can I travel during my au pair stay?
Yes, you will have free time and holidays to travel. However, make sure you communicate well with your host family and keep to your commitments.
How can I make sure that my au pair experience will be a success?
- Communicate openly with your host family
- Be proactive in learning French
- Take part in family life
- Take advantage of the cultural opportunities offered by your stay in France
- Don’t hesitate to contact BUTRFLY if you have any questions or difficulties.
